Thursday, April 8, 2010

it's called a break up because it's broken

These 2 days....it's been tough. Picked up a book hidden at the side of my bed. It was given to me by an anonymous reader a year back (thank you dear, i really appreciate it) while i was losing myself because of the break up with D. I didn't read it then...cus C walked into my life and changed everything. It's been 6 months since we met, and only 3 mths since we officially got together, however it feels like...3 years.

Everything was wonderful again since C came into my life. I managed to feel happy once again.The mood of my blog changed. I stopped coming home drunk every other day. I stopped quarreling and screaming at my mom. I was Normal again.

But they say, life is full of Ups and Downs and well, i had my Ups and now....it's another break up to face. I can do it. I've done it once. I'm going to do it again.

I'm not a girl who's easy to handle....because i've BPD. And if my boyfriend can't understand nor bother reading it up, he can't be my boyfriend cus he'd think i'm crazy. Which is exactly why today, i told myself as much as i love C, we can't be together because he can't understand that i get hurt by the littlest things and he needs to be more sensitive. For his friends to call me names, and for him to laugh and go "oh but it's not me! they said it. i didn't say anything. and it's funny what"....it shows...it shows... a lot. Yes your friends can laugh, yes they can call me names but for YOU to laugh and think it's totally alright...wow...i actually cant believe you can call me your girlfriend and claim you understand me.

No amount of I Love Yous and Sorrys will work on me. Because action speaks louder than words. If C really loves me, he wouldn't do anything to hurt me. If he realised what he did was a big mistake, he'll make up for it. But until he does...i'll be strong. I'll not throw myself at him. I'll not be blinded by Love.

Anyway, i don't blame C...really...i've read forums of boys complaining about their BPD girlfriends. It's fucking hard to live and please a BPD sufferer. Takes A Lot. A fucking Lot.

Anyway the good book i was talking about....read below - it's the introduction of it i found online.

Many people avoid “self-help” or relationship-themed books, but if you have recently broken up with your boyfriend, have recently been dumped, or can’t get over the ex-boyfriend you broke up with ages ago—hell, even if it’s an ex-girlfriend, provided you don’t mind some mental gender-switching—I strongly suggest that you give It’s Called a Breakup Because It’s Broken a try.

Excerpt from It's Called a Breakup Because It's Broken

by Greg Behrendt and Amira Ruotola-Behrendt


"There's no doubt about it-breakups suck. But in the first few hours or days or weeks that follow, there's one important truth you need to recognize: Some things can't and shouldn't be fixed, especially that loser who dumped you or forced you to dump him. It's over for a reason, and deep down inside you probably know what that reason is.

At the end of the day, it's about weather YOU like yourself enough to face the reality that your romance wasn't working.. to recognize that it wasn't giving you what you needed and deserved

Life's biggest rewards come from the biggest challenges.

Anyone who assesses you or your realtionship as "disposable" is not worthy of your time or tears.


Just remember, though, that any reasons you come up with are ultimately irrelavant. The harsh reality is that even if you have EVERYTHING else in common, the one thing you don't have in common is the belief that this realtionship can work. & that alone trumps your shared love of puppies, The Dave Matthews Band, and Mexican food.

A lot of the pain you are experiencing right now is actually fear. Fear of things being different then how you liked them, fear of never finding love again, fear of being alone, fear of having to fill your time differently. We're afraid of the unknown.

The person you loved took a good long look at the awesomeness that is you, evaluated your relationship together, and said, "No, thanks. I'll try my luck elsewhere." Or you said it to him. Either way, that alone should make you realize that it wasn't a match made in heaven

"I don't know" means "NO!"
"I don't know" means "I'm too cowardly to tell you the truth because I can't deal with confrontation."
"I don't know" means please do the dirty work for me becasue I don't want to hurt your feelings even more then I already have.

Awesome thought: The annoying thing that your ex did will never bother you again. I'm sure that your plan to get him back worked out in your head. I'm even sure that it worked out in some movie you saw. But your ex does not have the time to follow a movie script and you shouldn't either. Move on.

Every moment of pain, weakness, and discomfort puts you in a positon to choose how you will react and how you will alleviate your condition. Calling him doesn't make it better.. it only pulls you back into the cycle of heartbreak.

He is the past. You are the future.

Messing up his life isn't the best revenge. It's getting on with yours and living it to the fullest.

One of the suckiest and most frustrating facts of life is that sometimes rela tionships just end, often without reason. I truly believe that some times both men and women simply run out of love, even when there was a lot of it in the beginning.

Before you look for validation in others, try and find it in yourself.

As much as it sucks, you need to FORCE youself to remember your very worst times together, ..his most irritating habits and the hard truth that not only can he live without you.. but he'd rather.

You're giving an okay guy who cheats on his girlfriend a hell of a lot more credit then he deserves. He's a coward and a betrayer of not one but TWO women. He clearly feels ambivalent about you at best.. otherwise, he would have left this other woman a long time ago.

So many of us find ourselves saying "BUT HE WAS SO GREAT!" Yes, and the people who got on the Titanic thought they were going on vacation. Things changed and it's important to remember that they did.

Awesome thought: The right guy is out there right now, wondering when he's going meet someone just like you.

His regrets or lack thereof are exactly that- his . and not even the best little black cocktail dress can change that.

Every time you see him, you only make youself vulnerable to futher heartache. Do you really need further proof that he's getting on with his life without you?

The one who dumped you has had a huge head start on the healing. However long he entertained ending the realationship is also how long he's been emotionally extracting himself from you.

He was either partially or totally over it before you even knew it was going down

You weren't in the same realationship. That should answer ALL your questions.

You can love your friends.. ..you can love your family ... you can even love every stray dog or stray drummer that crosses your path. HOWEVER, you have to learn how to love yourself, like yourself, and put yourself first before you will ever find the healthy, loving, and lasting realtionship that you've been looking for."


p.s got my hair colored today. will blog about it tomorrow. :)

116 comments:

  1. Cheerup dear! Love you.

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  2. Goodness girl! OMG, i totally LOVE your post so much!
    This is the first post i loved so much, it definitely makes so much sense and it helps people who are in the midst of forgetting someone to get over easily!

    thanks girl! YOU TOTALLY DID THE RIGHT THING BY POSTING THIS! :D

    LOVE YA <3

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  3. hey, have you ever thought of attending church? you know cos it might really be the best choice for you to change yr whole life. 
    When all man fails, God never fails you.
    Stay happy and pretty girl. (:

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  4. This is a very beautiful post... Found myself being able to identify with it. Stay strong Tammy! :*

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  5. cheer up , look forward , you will sure find a guy who really loves you no matter what

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  6. babe! i am sure u can pull thru this time too.
    i'm also going thru all these shits..
    u will find a better guy that love you and understand you well. ;) 8-)

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  7. Hello. Has a doctor given you a verdict that you've got BPD? If not, it's normal for teenagers to feel at the extreme ends at times. Sometimes it might not be BPD, but you think it is, because you know the term suits your emotion at this point of time. For example, a depressed person wouldn't admit that he/she has depression because he/she can't feel himself/herself sinking into it. And you shouldn't be too concerned whether your boyfriend or his friends laugh at you because of certain characteristics because you should have faith in yourself. Not only faith, but confidence too. God bless you!

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  8. Hey Ohsofickle. I'll just like to say that, you're an awesome girl really. I mean looking at what you've built from scratch (your online shop), it takes special talent and a required amount of endurance. You've got what it takes! I suffer from BPD too, and mild depression. It's hard to live, but there's no reason good enough to die. They (who hurt you) aren't good enough a reason for you to stop living the fulfilling and meaningful life you were meant to. You really are special, honest, unique, beautiful and strong. I'm your age and yea, it's crazy during this period of time where the past, present and future affects us with all of its ambiguity, pain and significant events - whether we wish to remember it or not. Go Tammy! 

    Nicole. 

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  9. love this post (: had a good time reading it thanks ! hope you are fine (:

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  10. Nicely written article, i enjoyed it. 

    I don't know much about you, i don't know your situation well, i don't know how much pain you have to go through. 

    But i wish that you'll get through this, emerge stronger, and hopefully, nothing even more nastier happen in the meantime. 

    Stay strong. 

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  11. Hey there, what u had just written was really meaningful and helpful. especially when i just experienced getting dumped. So was it extracted from the book? Or was the advice written by you? Cheers. :)

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  12. Well, i do realise you have a thing for pretty -bad boy. Dont expect them to be good. Maybe guys around our age are not sensitive? I've got BPD too, and i choose not to date for now,unless a guy prove to me he can handle me well. Hope you can get over soon .

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  13. Cheerup!!!!!! He don't deserve you. At all. He needs to grow up. You can try turning to God. He'll help. :)

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  14. Hey Tam! Luv to you and so glad youre treating this way more positive than before. Im sure youll grow from this even if it still hurt that bit in your heart. Keep going.

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  15. yup i had it since the last brk up...am pretty sure it is BPD. i admit it cus i got diagnosed w it.

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  16. not by me! from the book! it's really really good!

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  17. thank you babe, you take care too :)

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  18. the article is not by me but from the book! thank you babe i wil

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  19. mmhm! thats good...sigh i fall in love too easily. you take care :)

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  20. yup! thanks!

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  21. thank you love <3

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  22. you take care too! good luck t us

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  23. i keep wanting to...but keep coming up with reasons when my mum drags me to. idk whats w me urgh.

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  24. Best book ever. Every girl needs this to get over a break up~

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  25. that is good! thank you!

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  26. Hey tammy,just read up on BPD..it sounds quite serious to me,hope there's some way that you can recover from it...
    anyway just wanted to tell you that i've been reading your blog since 2005?? and i really think you're amazing. saw you once @ FEP and i was so excited cuz i srsly think you're awesome.

    i know i sound very stalkerish but just wanted to say that you're amazing and there's definitely someone just as amazing for you.

    (:

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  27. Be strong! God bless you!

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  28. can i give you a hug? *hug* (you can't reject!) go tammy!

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  29. BPD is scary only to my loved ones. Thank you babe i appreciate it alot. Dont worry bout me. you take care!

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  30. You're a strong girl, you can do it :) how old is C this year btw?

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  31. well yknow i'm rly trying hard to "practice what i preach" in this post. yknow sometimes u say something on ur blog but behind u actually do something else....i'm rly hoping i'll be as strong. so yup :)  

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  32. so you treat him more as a good friend rather than a boyfriend eh? well idk man, i shouldnt make the choice for you, you do what you think is right and dont look back! If you think your selfish, then stop being selfish! Hope all goes well for you babe. 

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  33. aww hahaha 

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  34. thank you dear. a yr younger.

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  35. I dont know what is BPD but cheer up my dear !!!
    love uuuuuuuuuuuu^^

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  36. a positive attitude is a good start to move on. and i am glad that you have it. it takes a while but i am sure you can and will move on with your life especially since you are surrounded with awesome friends. hang in there and take care of yourself

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  37. Wow, who would have known. maybe now the haters can shut up and stop calling you a drama queen or sh.t

    Btw, i hope you heal soon(: idk, read some early comments, maybe church will help, maybe not... give it a try, let us know? lol. sorry. bad joke.

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  38. Dont find reason to stop yourself for going to church, have a open heart to let him speak into your life.
    let God do miracles in your life.
    Jiayou, i will keep you in prayer and you can do it. <3

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  39. Hi tammy please cheer up! :)
    You are totally awesome! this breakup will definitely not stumbled you!
    Anyway for the recent topshop wedges that you've purchased, do you still rmb which outlet you purchased it from? And when was it?

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  40. your entry helped me alot after 2 yrs of struggling. thanks. stay strong girl. =]

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  41. Cheer up Tammy! :)  Love this post alot! Don't worry, there're way better guys out there for you! Can't way to get a look of your new hair, btw! :D 8-)  

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  42. Hey Tammy, you're a great girl and i sincerely hope things get better for you! :D You'll be doing fine! I'll be praying for you :) You go girl

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  43. babe, life is filled up with ups and downs your right :)  maybe he isnt for you. although there is clearly love in the r/s, you need someone who will actually bother understanding you. not to say your last r/s was a mistake, but im sure uve had your wonderful times too. now cheer up babe. im sure u will be able to find someone who treasures you. life will surely go well for you. have faith honey.

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  44. hi may i ask what is BPD? thanks cheer up!

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  45. heh, it's not that boring. The church ur mum goess is pretty cool! :> Attend someday for fun, you may like it!

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  46. thank u so much. you helped me be more determine to move on from my recent breakup frm my r/s

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  47. the book is good i hafta admit even just by reading this extract from it. well, since you made your choice, you cant look back. everythime you want to look back, just pick up the book and read. i guess it'll helps ? i'm sure you'll be up and strong in no time because you're tammy (: XX!

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  48. Hope you get well soon. I've always figured the most important relationship to have in your life is the relationship you have with yourself. Because no matter what happens you'll always be with yourself. God bless, and you know you'll do fine yes? (:

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  49. This is great...i suffer from smth similar to bpd too... but my boyfriend calls me crazy when i try to tell him about it.

    Can totally identify with you. You go girl

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  50. <p><span><span>
    <p><span>A boy will dread your time of the month. A man will know when it is before you do, and have the chocolate ready. A boy believes that sometimes “no” means “yes.” A man knows that “no” means “no” and that, in fact, sometimes “yes” means “no” as well. A boy will believe that real men don’t cry. A man will not be afraid to show his emotions. A boy will think that the idea of a threesome is awesome. A man won’t want to share you with anyone. A boy will think you should be grateful that he comes home to you. A man wouldn’t leave without you in the first place. A boy may call you “bitch” or “hoe”. A man will call you by name. A boy will have a back up plan. A man will be lost without you. A boy will be afraid of commitment. A man will think forever is too short a time with you.</span><span></span>
    </p><p><span> </span>
    </p><p><span>I'm not sure if you've came across that article, but I just feel that maybe you could relate to it. BPD or not, I guess C's got to have the maturity. Boys around our age usually are childish in their mindset because they usually lag behind girls' by 3 years. If he can't change for you, then neither should you. =) I just feel that we shouldn't be constrained by fear like the book also mentioned. </span>
    </p><p><span> </span>
    <span>I'm sure there are greater plans out there for you and it might not be Love. It could be your career instead. =)</span><span></span>
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    </p>

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  51. takes courage to write a post like that. I admire your guts. When I fall into a stage like this, I don't remember waking up without looking like a panda. the cycle of heartache is terrible, and it takes more than just ego to break it. It takes courage too. Look around you, and look at all the people who are supporting you. You have so many. Be thankful for them and take each day one step at a time ya, with an open heart. You know you're strong if you believe :)

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  52. I never would have guessed you have BPD. and wow (i was reading the comment above this box^) you've been through a lot. I wish you the best in this relationship, and no it not all your fault. Sometimes boys will be boys--they just won't get it. But being a man is different. Looks like he is not yet. :> Stay strong, I've faith in youu :) ))

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  53. Hey, Cheer up. i believe youre a strong girl. nothing can bring you down.! youre nice thou i never hang out much with you. hahaahhaha

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  54. I believe you can get through it this time with no thoughts of committing suicide you will pull through for your love ones those who really care about you and don't mind even if you have BPD those are the true friends and love ones that will not laugh at you they will be the ones who spare a thought for you when hurtful words are being said about you Be strong and keep fighting there are always someone out there who will understand you better than him and think before having certain action made infront of you Others can only tell you what to do Remember to live each day for yourself not live for others I will always like to see that strong tammy that can live better each day Ohsofickle needs you to provide fashion trends and bags You make others feel happpy when new clothes arrive That special him is waiting out there for you :)

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  55. hey what font is Ohsofickle? whr did you get your tattoo from anyway?

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  56. hey there cheer up yeah! what doesn't kill you makes you stronger (:

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  57. please don't preach, not everyone wants to be a christian 

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  58. I had no idea that you suffered from BPD, but I know how difficult it can be not just for you but the people around you too. It takes a long time to get over someone, but you seem well on your way (: You're a strong person, taking chances and making the most of your life. Keep walking! x

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  59. Hi there! Always be strong! All your readers know you don't give up that easily.. Boys come and go. They hurt you, they play with you, they claim to love you, then they say they don't, they don't understand girls AT ALL. Seriously. They take us for granted and when you're gone from their lives then they will know that the importance of having you. So cheer up! There's still many fishes in the sea and you're still young! Bpd shouldn't be a burden to him, if he really loves you, he would give in to you and be understanding towards you. So cheer up!!!! :)

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  60. I got that book as well and it definitely made me feel a whole lot better. I hope it does for you too! No girls should die for a guy. It's totally not worth your life! You still have your own business, family, friends, readers, dogs etc so be thankful for them! Some people don't even have anyone to talk to. So live life to the fullest while you still can and I know you can do it! xoxo

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  61. The right one is worth the wait. i had mild depression after this really bad break up, and I thought I would never love again. I was never really happy for almost 3 years, but now I think I've found a guy who understands and cares for me like never before and I think I could love him now. Be Strong!! :)

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  62. Hey Tammy! :)  I may not fully understand how you're feeling right now, but i hope you'll stay strong and get past this obstacle! You have my support, go girl! <3 

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  63. Stay strong, girl! We all know you can do it! (Huggggggggs) :)

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  64. before this post, i didn't know you have BPD. and now i have so much respect for you that i must click "comments" and type this. haha. really admire your courage to let go even though no one likes a heart break, neither do you. go you! i'd love to see your shop franchise overseas as well :)

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  65. i think your post will help a lot to people who have recently  had a breakup. thank you babe.

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  66. wonderful excerpt. i too, just broke up w my boy. so did my best friend. so did my cousin and his girl. it's a month full of break ups. but stay strong hun. someday you'll meet a guy who loves u for who u are. cheers~

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  67. love you (i'm a girl though)April 9, 2010 at 11:58 AM

    cheer up alright! take god, you ended this relationship. he seems to be not compatible with you as i believe you can meet someone way better! everything will be alright! :-D

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  68. i hope you're fine! your readers will all be here to support you and see you through the break up! do things that keeps you happy and think positively! this break up open doors to meet a BETTER guy! Take care dear :)

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  69. i hope mentioning ive bpd, i wont get ppl's sympathy eh!! don't need! just want people to know the reason why my bf and i always quarrel...tht not because he cheated on him but that i'm sooooo hard to please. anyhow, thank you and i really hope to see that too! in prolly....a few years time? hehehe.

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  70. I'm happy for you! Take care babe!

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  71. oh dear...and now Me! Hahaha. oh well...life will get better! you take care!

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  72. mmhm! boys will be boys!!

    Actually havin BPD actually is a burden to my loved ones  :(  and accepting it is actually very hard when u really have to deal with it! So i rly understand why he cant take it anymoreeeee

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  73. Cant wait to finish the book~~

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  74. Mmmhm. Extremely hard and i'm SCARY i cannot stand how i can get so  angry and hurl all vulgarities and mean words at him for an hour and then the next, i'll say sorry and start gg iloveyou all over again. And i do this like every week. I know how tiring it is for C...... :(  aif he doesnt wna tolerate it, i cant force him to!


    It's the book. It's waking me up. :)

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  75. http://24.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_kzth4wo0hD1qzlvpto1_500.jpg this is for you^^ thought it'd make you feel that you're not alone

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  76. Acceptance is the first step to anything.. I'm sure you will find the right one soon! 旧的不去,新的不来! Be strong!

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  77. i'm sure you'll find a better guy. cheer up! :)

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  78. although im silent, doesnt means i dont read!!! have been following since so long, and hope u stil rmb me..

    And i'm sure that you will pick urself back agn!! :D:D:D:D

    BE STRONG, TAMMY!! STAY STRONG. YOU MUST!!

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  79. <p><span>Why'd people actually ask her Qs about where she get her wedges and all when she's in sucha state now? :/</span>
    </p><p><span>Anw, chin up girl! Things will get better. =)</span></p>

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  80. he/she is not even preaching?! LOL. suggestion also got wrong huh

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  81. i am a christian. just a back-slider. therefore guest wants me to go back to church.

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  82. nah nothing wrong at all! thx! it will, im sure it will.

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  83. Hey dear, I've been mia-ing from your blog since "godknowswhen" ... But everyday without failed, I would come to your blog !!! Though I didnt left any comments ...
    Anyway, first of all, I felt a little upset when I read your blog, knowing that you and C has break up.
    I thought it would last for quite sometime, and when I saw you posting up, saying he actually laugh at you when his friends does all those damn stuff, like calling you names and thinking that it was alright I think that he is such an ass. NONO, I think more than that. Gosh.
    But well, after continuing reading to the very last sentence, I was so glad that you actually managed to overcome this break up. Because your first break up with D was a nasty one and many awful things ran thorugh your mind and stuff like that. The book is truly interesting and it really do works wonder.
    I'm truly happy that you're at least, living well now then what letting history repeat itself.
    Please continue to stay strong alright !!!! XOXO , Loves Annabel  ;)

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  84. Thanks for the beautiful post. Really helped me a lot.

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  85. hello darling! wanna know ur reason for going to club and for me i realised mine is coz it has smthg to do with bpd! i didn know i had it until i read ur blog and i like FINALLY know the reason. well u know i cant find the reason that smthg's wrong with me but i dont want to be known as "unsound" so i refuse to seek the doctor. so yup. anw i found the anz and thanks! x3

    i've a bf and we quarrel EVERY SINGLE DAY. just the past wednesday he told me he couldnt take the r/s and he wanted a break from the r/s. we are tgt right now again but well i'm not sure if i shld initiate a break up now coz aft reading ur blog kindof feel that he's unfortunate hav someone like me..

    hope he'll unds ur bpd prob soon! else be strong! but i find it absurd to be laughing at what the others called you. i dont think u're being sensitive though in this case. 

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  86. heyhey! jiayou! :D take care alright! <3

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  87. Stay strong girl! I'm sure you'll pull through this, you're worth more than that <3

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  88. Stay strong for I'm sure the right one will come along. We never know who's the right one, but we'll see as time goes by (: Everyone of us deserve the best, including you so cheer up! There's always a ray of light after every tunnel.

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  89. First time commenting here!

    Just to share with you that Christ saved me from my broken relationship too & I'm really happy right now though single but never alone! :D But at the end of everything, this is a personal decision!! Good luck with everything k.

    You're stronger than you think you are (:

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  90. i wish i could printscreen this whole post! it contains some really good advice :)    especially: "The person you loved took a good long look at the awesomeness that is you, evaluated your relationship together, and said, "No, thanks. I'll try my luck elsewhere."   "    

    i'm trying to get over my ex-boyfriend and i find myself checking his facebook every other day. argh! okay i'll try to take this advice :)     make sure you follow it too!

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  91. Hey cheer up! :] Really hope things will get better for you. Anyhow seems to be that you're always feeling inferior about yourself. DON'T! You're a really great girl, pretty too haha. I love your new hair btw!! Stay strong tammy :}

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  92. You deserve a lot more, Tammy. Stay strong always :)

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  93. Hey tammy ! :D I think this post of yours is awesome ! I am sure you would find that someone who would appreciate you . Stay strong and life is all about being happy ! Takecare alright - Loves ! <3

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  94. Totally support your thoughts. Its a very fair decision for both of you. btw your hair colour is FREAKING AWESOMEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE. JEALOUS/ENVIOUS MUCH!!!!! DAMN DAMN DAMN PRETTY i wanna marry your hair omg. damn nice!

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  95. hi tammy, my close friend has BPD too, and it really took a toll on her relationship of 8 years, though her boyfriend finally accepted it after a long struggle. things will never be perfect, and neither should people be, but if C is willing to change for you and your relationship then don't give up on it just yet.

    take care, i can imgaine the struggle you go through with the side of yourself you might not like, but hang in there. *hug.

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  96. hey tammy! i wanna say thanks for posting this. you maybe just sharing your thoughts or how you feel right now, but it definately HELPED me alot. im getting thru a break up right now and this post just Gives me so much Hope.

    anyways, cheer up babe. & i hope things get better for you soon. ive been following your blog for quite some time. way back when you were still taking o's! and i wanna tell you that youre rly strong and independant woman:) i am proud of you and you shld be too hehe okay i sound like your mom or smth...

    okay love you + God bless

    xoxo

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  97. i nearly wanted to cry when i read this post.recently just loss the person tt i love and been for 3yrs, it makes me realise so much after reading that post.thank you.i really like this post and shld get that book right away.=)and you cheer up and be strong.=)

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  98. I like this. Very honest and beautiful post, Tammy.

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  99. Don't worry too much, best of luck. :)

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  100. This book is GOLD! It's like a breakup bible. And stay happy (: You look prettier when you are happy.

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  101. well, it takes time and determination. :D will be praying for you and all the best in everything you do!
    you go girl! 

    PS: your new hair colour looks great!

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  102. Hey Tammy, I've BPD as well.. I totally understand how you feel.. and yes only our loved ones would understand how it is like... Alot of times I'm so afraid to deal with myself and I can't take it any longer.. Thus.. I hope you won't feel that you're alone and everyone are there for you.. You're really awesome, I sincerely hope you'll find happiness and stop being so sad ... =) Take care Tammy .

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  103. Its good to know i'm not alone in this and someone understands how i rly feel. Yknow....it's like i don't think anyone who isnt BPD can really understand me :( Thank u for being so super nice u take care too~ 

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  104. Church help me with my BPD, to the point I show no signs of it :) Good to have "Stop Walking on Eggshells" for your future bf/husband and Dialectical Behaviour Therapy book you can get it from Kino :) Smile because there is Hope

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  105. You're brave Tammy. You really inspire me. 

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  106. yes yes!!! i wanted t get the book for my bf online for damn long! but keep forgetting! didnt know kino has it! thx for letting me knw~~~

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  107. JIAYOU! LOVE YOURSELF MORE THAN ANYTHING

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  108. Learning to... :)

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  109. misslimleen.blogspot.comApril 14, 2010 at 5:31 AM

    im getting over a break up at this moment.. ( like 3 weeks now )
    it had been hell lot difficult to bear thru...

    & now, it totally struck me after reading this post.
    It was like saviour to my thoughts , to what i wanna do & what i had been thru...

    thanks tammy..
    love misslimleen

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  110. hey, may i know where can i get that book? oh and stay strong tammy! :)

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  111. try borders!

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  112. Hey did the anon say she/hegot the book from singapore ? Cos I'm looking for it *DONT_KNOW*

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  113. i bookmarked this post of yours when you first posted it. I think i had the feeling that I would break up with my bf and need to read this. Now, we did break up and I'm reading it :) It makes me feel better!

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  114. That is awesome to hear!

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