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Wednesday, July 29, 2015

Single Parents in Singapore

"In an interview with government-controlled media Channel News Asia, Minister for Social and Family Development (MSF) Tan Chuan Jin said that the ruling PAP Government will still not support equal rights for single parents because it is not the “norm”"

"Going by Minister Tan Chuan Jin’s logic, it appears giving these single parents equal rights will result in an increase in the number of single parents and that married couples become single parents out of choice and not circumstances."

It's so stupid because not all Single Parents want to be Single Parents by choice. Yes, some people do choose to lead that lifestyle because going through an abortion does seem cruel and some women do feel strong and are capable enough to do so. But many don't...and many times it's because the Father of the child isn't a good person. So these women have to live with a cheating husband or an abusive guy for the rest of her life just so she can enjoy the benefits from the government? If father of the child has another woman outside, the mother has to marry him just so she can have a "normal" family? You'd say, then why they even had a child in the first place. Well, people can change overnight and ya, accidents do happen. Everyone wants a perfect family, who would choose not to have one if they could? Also, some guys just refuse to be responsible for the life they created, how about the government force these men to be responsible since they wanna "force" marriage like that? It's always the woman's fault but hey, it takes 2 hands to clap? Whether Single or Married, the responsibility to raise a child is the same...a parent is a parent. In fact, it is two times tougher on a single parent! Single parents aren't even asking for more benefits...just EQUAL benefits. After all, everyone is paying taxes too.

For myself, thankfully I have great family support and because my partner and I have plans, this "status" won't be for long. So this complain post isn't about me but for those other mummies out there. It is not the same for everyone... I have met so many single moms who really struggle. They struggle to find time to look after their child because they have to work full time (some even work 2 Jobs) to pay the bills and also struggle to find a roof over their head because single parents cannot purchase a HDB (until they reach 35). Most of the time thanks to their irresponsible partners who abandoned them. Still, they chose to keep the child because they really cannot bear to go through an abortion. Especially those who discover their pregnancy at a later stage, when you see the ultrasound scan of a fully formed baby, you have the heart to abort meh?? Also met one whom partner passed away the week they were going to tie the knot and shortly after found out she was 5 weeks pregnant. Some things are really not by choice. Hopefully one day the government would be a little more sympathetic and give single parents the same benefits because it really isn't easy raising a child on their own at all. I'm not anti PAP and do wish they continue running the country as they've been doing a great job so far and am not sure if the opposition can do better but there are little things like that I wish would change. Why should the parent be punished for choosing the brave step to raise a child? It is just so sad these parents get condemned for their bravery.

Tuesday, July 28, 2015

Prenatal Massage


Pregnancy isn't the easiest thing to go through. Many pregnant women tend to suffer from back ache and swollen feet during pregnancy due to carrying the additional weight all around.

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I have experienced times whereby I am so sore all over and so in need of a good massage but when I visit the massage palours I go to pre-pregnancy, they refuse to lay a finger on me as they say they are not certified pre-natal masseurs and afraid to harm my baby. So yes, you can't just walk into any random massage palour you see.

How can prenatal massage help me?

The therapeutic benefits of massage for pregnant women haven't been studied very much. There's some evidence that massage may help people who suffer from low back pain and possibly those with chronic headaches, but the studies weren't done with pregnant women. In any case, massage may decrease stress and promote relaxation, helping you cope with discomfort even if it doesn't specifically alleviate or prevent it.

Carrying a baby inside you changes your center of gravity and puts a lot of stress on your back, neck, abdominal muscles, and shoulders. Pregnancy also relaxes your ligaments, so that your pelvic joints are less stable, and changes your posture, pulling your pelvis forward. Add to that the extra weight you're carrying and you may find you've got an aching lower back.

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That is why I have prepared a list of places to check out should you be in need of a good prenatal massage in Singapore to relax because you deserve it, momma to be! 

East

Tel: 92716091
Add: 180 Joo Chiat Road #02-02 (Shophouse) Singapore 427451


Java Spa
Tel: 62451151
Add:711 East Coast Road, Singapore 459065


North

Tel: 64566556
Add:1382 Ang Mo Kio Ave 1, Bishan park 2, Singapore 569931


West

Tel: +65 9655 6112
Address: 46 Pandan Loop Singapore 119728 (appointment only)


Central

Phone: +65 6836 0676
Add: 263 South Bridge Road, Singapore 058812

Tel: 6356 6623
Add: 10 Sinaran Drive #02-10 Square 2 Singapore 307506


Tel: 6235 0688
Add: 290 Orchard Road #14-11/12 Paragon Singapore 238859

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Rather enjoy a massage in the comfort of your own home? 
You can always arrange an appointment with masseurs who will travel to your place! The masseurs below specialize in pre and post-natal massage. All you need is a bed, 2 pillows and 2 towels. :)

Oriental Jamu
Phone: +65 8518 8726 (Jessica)
Email: orientaljamu@gmail.com


Rahayu Homespa
Phone: 9878 2394
Email: ayu@rahayu-homespa.com


Madam Noura
Phone: 94345343


Mdm Masita
Phone: 90510005

I personally prefer the home massage option and also did home post-natal massage after the delivery of my baby as was having Chinese confinement and could not go out for a month. I like Jessica and Rahayu a lot and will be using them for my 2nd pregnancy. Have 2 in case one isn't free hehe. Usually the home massage masseurs are very busy and it can be a little bit difficult if you want to do it last minute which is why I decided to put in 4 options (first 2 I've personally had a good experience with and the other 2 were recommended by mummy friends).

Pamper yourself with a good massage once a week if you can! It will really make your pregnancy more relaxing and hopefully, enjoyable. :) I personally do it every 2 weeks!

Might do a post on post-natal massage when i've gathered enough places offering it (any mommas know of good post-natal masseurs, do feel free to e-mail me at tammytay@hotmail.sg).