Wednesday, November 17, 2010

For DX

I feel a need to write this post for one the most wonderful girls i've ever know...

I've been thru the hell you're going thru right now. TWICE. I totally understand everything you're feeling. You too know how alike we are, in like EVERYTHING and no one would understand you more than i do.

I do know words will not take all the sadness away but it will make you feel a teeny weeny bit better and i hope all this would remind you that YOU'RE SUPER LOVED.

I've been through 2 bad break ups and you were always there for me so i want to be here for you okay? What you're going thru is EXACTLY like what i went thru to get over was the HARDEST BREAK UP EVER. Hurts x10 more than the one with C cus i was the one who screwed up. BUT I DID IT! Ya'll know how much i loved him and how remorseful i felt back then for the mistakes i made right? Well well,i am alive today and am able to feel happiness again. I've found a boy to love and i do hope he loves me the same and i would marry him and i wouldn't have to go through another shitty break up EVER! I believe there's The One for you around you now and he will give you all that you just need to learn to move on and not look back because really, there's no point.

Remember the times i decided to be alone and always go missing? Well those are the moments where i spend a good amount of time alone with my thoughts. I'd fly to Bangkok, stay there for a week, go on a super shopping spree everyday - just drain myself from makes me feel SO MUCH BETTER. Though coming back to SGP to face reality again is tough, but well at least you're back with new clothes, new accessories, new shoes! Then spend your time dolling up with your new buys in Singapore...when you look good, you'll feel good! When you're done being alone, YOU ALWAYS HAVE YOUR FRIENDS. You have so many friends who love you and would do ANYTHING to see you happy again.

Went thru my archives for this,
Forget the times he walked by, Forget the times he made you cry,
Forget the times he spoke your name, Remember now your not the same.
Forget the times he held your hand, Forget the sweet things if you can,
Forget the times & Don't pretend, Remember now he's just your friend.

You have to read this post one too...a post to help the heart broken,
I'll pass the book to you ok?

And well you didn't exactly get dumped but i hope this will help a lil...

How To Get Over A Nasty Break Up

First of all do not call him. You think you will be able to hold it together. You think you will be able to talk to him in a calm rational voice that doesn't sound in the least bit desperate (hahaha this one i failed. terribly. "kiss me leh" - perfect example. AHAHAHA dew, leon, donna witnessed it all....dammit hahaha and also the time i used my long dress and tied it around him so i had more time to look at him while he tries to remove the knot i tied.). You think you can talk to him without begging him to take you back (i can't believed i did that too!'s quite hard to believe how one can want you so much at one point of time and now when you want the person so fucking much the person doesnt give a fuck!). If you are anything like me, you can't, don't try. A good thing to do at this stage in your grief is to get some sleep and obtain a rational mind. This, if you DO decide to call him, do it at a time when you are not so vulnerable.

Likewise, don't send the email you thought about sending (i decided to flood his facebook inbox instead? hahaha). This is just as bad if not worse than calling. With an email, there is a constant and permanent reminder of what you wrote while you were aching and desperate. This will most likely stay in his possession and undoubtedly be distributed to all of his friends. This unfortunate email is NOT what you want to be known by from all of his friend (well yeah true true i'm like a joke to his friends. but they know shit so yeah whateverrrrrrrr?). Words are hard enough to take back without them being recorded on hard copy. If you INSIST on writing an email, again, do it on a day that you are completely together and thinking clearly. Don't say anything you will regret later, because you never know when you might regret.

Resist The Temptation

The worst possible thing you could do out of everything I have mentioned is go to see him. This may creep him out even more than calling him in the middle of the night. You DEFINITELY don't want do be known for this by his friends. He probably would not hesitate in letting them in on this little visit. This is another time to just curl up and get some sleep. If you are going to confront him, wait until you are clear headed and have done some thinking about how everything is going to play out and what you are planning to say. This helps you to be more prepared when you do confront him. Whatever you do, don't do it in a crying vulnerable state.

Now that you've seen some of the don'ts of the getting dumped handbook, it's time for some do's. If you need to call someone for moral support, call your best friend. Let her be the shoulder you will cry on. For the most part, she is going to be able to support what you are going through because she has undoubtedly gone through the same thing. Not only can she be a shoulder to cry on, you can bounce all your ideas to contact the ex off her. Tell her what you plan to say to him, read her that email you plan to send. Get a second opinion that may help you to gain some insight on what you should do. A shoulder to cry on can be one of the most important assets you have after a rough break up.

Another do is to try to get some sleep. Get your mind off your worries by reading a book to fall asleep, watching some TV, taking a bubble bath, or doing all three. These suggestions can relax you, allowing you to get some much needed sleep. No matter what, know who you are and what worth you have. Someone dumping you does not mean you are not worth anything. Just know you will survive, no matter how bad you feel at the moment about getting dumped.

Babe, you are so pretty and i want to see your big beautiful smile soon...I want my happy pill! I want my cutesy lil thing come back strong and happy! I love you, DX.

If you're heartbroken and feeling down, hope this post will help you get back up again. I did it, you can do it too!