Tattoo Removal 5

I have received TONS of emails regarding my tattoo removal progress...

It has been an extremely long and torturous journey and it could've been shorter if i just went for the treatments every month but i really dreaded the pain...

To date, i have 9 sessions in all done at 2 places, namely, Trinity Medical Centre and National Skin Centre.

Currently, most of the black have lightened however the colors are VERY stubborn and difficult to get rid of. :(

So here are some pictures of it after 9 sessions (mostly targeting the black ink - 6 sessions)

And here's the before picture for comparison...

All i can say is, if you regret a tattoo, laser removal is not going to be as easy as you think...especially if it is a colorful tattoo. I have friends who had no problem with black tattoos! So yeah, if your is all black it should be quite easy! But still, removal is not going to be 100% clear!

I will be going for Session 10 next week, after session 10, 90% of the black ink should be gone! Then i'll be left with the colorful ink. Not too sure how many sessions ill need but I'm already half way there so...hanging on and staying positive! Not expecting it to be extremely clear but ill be happy if a little bit of foundation + concealer can cover it, it's all good for me.

Details of the clinics i go to...

National Skin Centre

Address: 1 Mandalay Road Singapore 308205

Phone: 6253 4455

Trinity Medical Centre
(Dr Lim)

Address: 87, Marine Parade Central

#02-500A, Singapore 440087

Phone: (+65) 6344 0027

Email: marineparade@trinitymedical.com.sg

The Big News, My Last Post

It was a difficult decision to make but I had a year to think about it.

So...I have decided to take down this space, and let the memories in this space be for my viewing only. Yes, I have decided to discontinue my blog.

It is kinda difficult to leave because of the "easy money" and flexible working hours and the many perks of being a "blogger" but for the sake of my privacy (and my family's), I have decided to not continue blogging. I can leave out the details of my personal life and continue blogging for the sake of the money but that'll just make my blog very different and well, not really my style anymore. Especially since i started this blog with the purpose wanting to share my personal life and experiences.

Being a blogger, I just can't help but to feel this need to update everyone on everything that's happening in my life. There are different kind of bloggers out there and many do keep their lives private but for me, I did not start out like that and I'm used to being very open about everything. It's something I've been doing since 14 and I just really enjoy letting my experiences and thoughts on life being read. People follow me because I try to be as real and honest about things and I'm not afraid to put my life out there for people to talk about. Honestly I liked the attention I was getting too...I loved getting recognized on the streets and stuff like that.

However, after being a mom, I realized I just am not the same person anymore. I do not care for the attention anymore. I don't want it so much as life is not all about me now. I am not who I used to be...I had the "say what you want, I don't give a f" attitude but now I just don't want that kinda stuff going around because f up people will drag my family in and then talk shit about them. Yeah I must add, I have became super paranoid about everything now. Lol.

My partner kinda influenced me in ways I would never have thought of. Like trying to stay off social media and appreciating the real world. Take time off "showing off" stuff online just to impress people and be admired. Without sharing too much about me, people won't have much to say. With lesser gossip to deal with, it actually made me happier.

Well I will still keep Instagram going though because I still want a place to share pretty pictures hehe so see you guys over at @ohsofickle once this blog goes private! And if you do not already know, I do have a new job as an Interior Designer at Imagine by SK66.

Apart from getting updated on my personal life, I do know people who follow me because sometimes i do share some good restaurants and beauty tips, i will still continue doing that on Instagram, :).

For now, thank you to all my sponsors and advertisers for working with me and uhm...funding me of course :x haha. I know many of you were shocked I kept rejecting ads esp in the past 3 months! Well now you guys know why! It's been a really really awesome journey as a full time blogger and I am super lucky I had one of the best jobs (and be well paid too) a girl can ask for. Thanks to all you readers too. Thank you for all the support and love you've given me in the past few years. :) x

[Update]
From time to time ill always come back to this space to pen down "private posts" so i still see comments~ am so so touched reading all the comments left on this post, CAN CRY!!! LOVE YALL.

One More Week

Got some big news to reveal in a week...

I'm kinda scared but at the same time weirdly...glad.

On a side note, heading to Bangkok tomorrow to accompany my mom and maybe buy lotsa new baby clothes for my babies! Looking forward to my last holiday. Gonna be just a short 2 days there but better than nothing~ imma shop till I drop! 

Pregnancy Update

Oh my...this pregnancy, I AM RAVENOUS. I CANT STOP EATING CARBS. My everyday must have includes at least 2 slices of cake, muffins, bread w peanut butter...it's really crazy because I have so much carbs in a day and I'm kinda inactive. I've stopped exercising as it always hurts down below when I do. It's a weird feeling. I miss exercising though! I miss perspiring and having a good work out so much.

At week 26 I've already gained 10kg! It's pretty similar to my previous pregnancy  which means I've to work super hard to lose all the excess weight after baby. Which I heard is more difficult after having number 2 but praying that those things I heard aren't true. 

Well I am thankful that everything has been pretty great so far though! I do get days I feel very very worried as this baby isn't as active as Elroy. I hardly feel her kicking! And when I do, it's just for a little while and it's only when I lie down flat and really try to feel her. Most of the time I can't feel her. It's so weird right! So I bought myself a little Doppler so I can hear her heartbeat from time to time to assure myself she's alright. It's quite funny cus she moves the most when I'm using the Doppler!

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Planning Baby's First Birthday Party

One more month and my precious first child would be officially 1 years old! Oh how time flies~ 

 

I have never had a problem planning birthday parties. I enjoy planning my own parties as well as my friends'. However, when planning for my child's first birthday party, it was not as easy as I thought it'll be. I have a month to get everything settled so I decided to speak to friends who have done it before to help me with it. After planning it once, and possibly failing at some areas, one would know better how to plan the next. However let's just skip that and make sure the first time is perfect!

Most parents i have talked to said they spent between $1k-2k planning for their child's first birthday. It isn't a small sum considering that's probably half of an average Singaporean's monthly pay check but well, the oldies said celebrating "big birthdays" in one's life will bring lots of luck so most parents will plan a big one (even though our little one wouldn't remember much at 1 years old, sadly).

Here is a check list of the things you will need to look for when planning your child's birthday party. I have also gathered recommendations from mummies who have successfully planned a good birthday party for their little one.

1. The Venue

This is the most important but toughest to find! Here we have a few suitable places to hold your child's birthday party and hopefully it's within your budget. 

It'll be great if you can afford to book a whole restaurant, a hotel function room, maybe even a hotel suite because that way, you need not do all the cleaning on your own! However for the budget conscious...

Condo Clubhouse

At just $50/day, this is definitely one of the cheapest option in our list. If you do not live in a condo, maybe use a relative or a friend's place!

East Coast Park/The Beach

With lots of space for kids to run around and at under $100! You do need to get a permit to "rent" the area though! 

 

 

Chalets

 

Option 1 : Chevrons.org.sg

Option 2: http://www.nsrcc.com.sg

2. Balloons/Party Decorators

Decoration makes all the difference in how the place looks and sets the mood. Nobody wants to walk into a  party in a bare room with plain walls.

You can DIY by buying balloons and decor items from Party Shops or engage a decorator to do up the place if you have the budget to! 

You can buy party supplies online from...

 

Www.thepartystuff.com.sg

 

Www.partywholesale.com.sg

 

http://www.mtradenoveltystore.com

Or engage balloon specialists like...

 

Little Red Balloon

http://littleredballoon.com.sg

 

 

3. Birthday Cake

 

Since this is a big party, we will need a big cake! In recent years, there has been a spike in home bakers in Singapore has many great home bakers on Instagram. When it comes to the look for it, most bakers do not have a problem achieving that however...I have tasted some of the prettiest but worst tasting cakes too many times.

I hate fondant of cakes so much because I once accidentally ate fondant and it tasted so much like play doh so since then, I cannot get over how bad it tastes. A fondant cake definitely looks prettier though, as there can be a lot more details and colors on the cake design. ONE THING I MUST REMIND ALL, NEVER EAT THE FONDANT OF A CAKE. Or even have it together with your cake. It never tastes good. I will ALWAYS remove the fondant of the cake before serving it to guests. It's the inside of the cake which matters! If you have a phobia of fondant, the list below has a few which do not use fondant however, as I said above, fondant cakes look a lot nicer and more detailed so to each its own!

I have narrowed the list down to a few whom have great reviews online (looks and taste!) to help you find the perfect baker to bake the perfect cake for your party!

mysisterbakes

http://mysisterbakes.com/

Abite 

http://abite.sg/

4. Food

 

For the older folks attending a kid's birthday party, the food is probably one of things to look forward to. With that said, a good caterer is needed! You don't want to end up with too much leftovers because the food doesn't taste good! And one more thing, if you are inviting 40 people to the party, you should only order food for 30. Don't worry too much about it not being enough! All 40 people who attend the party will be able to walk out with their tummies filled AND you still might have a little bit to tapao back home to eat the following day. Been there, done that!

So which caterers are good?

Neo Garden

https://www.neogarden.com.sg/

 

Mum's Kitchen

http://www.mumskitchen.com.sg

5. Activities/Entertainment

This also depends on where the party is held it so not every activity in this list is suitable for you.

Here are some ideas on what to engage to keep the kids (and the kid in you) entertained!

Clown

Poof! the Magical Clown is famous for his entertaining shows that combine magic tricks with lots of clowning around. A real firecracker at any kids' party!
Phone: 98421882 

Email: info@alexthemagician.com 
Website: http://www.alexthemagician.com/poof.php

 

Sweetheart the Clown is Singapore's only female professional clown. Not only that, she's also an accomplished ventriloquist and is sure to entertain any kid with her trusty sidekick, baby Pinky.
Phone: 94503910 
Website: http://www.sweethearttheclown.com/

Mascot/Costume Rental

http://www.globalmascot.com/

http://number1costumecostume.com.sg/

Balloon Sculpturing

 

http://www.kidsparty.com.sg/showtime/BalloonSculpturing.php

Bouncy Castle/Ball Pit/Play Pen

 

 

http://tickletickle.sg/services/bouncers/

 

http://www.rent-that-toy.com/

Turn your backyard/void deck into a fun playground

http://wowexperience.sg/event-management-services/

I do hope this post has helped you and your child will have a great party!

 

This are all the stuff i have gathered while trying to plan for my son's first birthday and thought it'll be great to share it with all you other mummies. :)

Backwards

When it comes to the topic of marriage and having children, I may have done things backwards but I do not think it makes me nor my partner a bad person. We did not want the moment to not feel rushed or forced and we both knew what has to be done since Day 1.

(Have decided to remove this portion as that someone thinks it's a bit too in depth...so yeah, privacy...)

It seems like we don't have much of an issue with the backwards thing but everyone around us seems to be bothered by it. Honestly, I don't blame them because we were brought up in a way that marriage has to come before babies and that is supposedly the right thing to do. However, in my opinion, that signed paper does not prove you're a better parent because even some married couples can't raise their children well. It is not about the paper but instead, it's how much you can provide for your child and do your best to give your child the best environment to grow up in. Should you have to rush into a marriage, and live with someone who is abusive or who cheats, will that environment your child grow up in be a happy one? It is just one of the many things I thought about before rushing to sign the paper. Not trying to convince anyone to agree with my views but wanted to share a little bit about my life choices and let you know and be assured my kids are well taken care of.

Sometimes I question myself...why my life is like that and why can't i be one of those who takes a conventional path (oh the many things I do differently from others...like eg. dropping out of sch etc). But If everyone has such easy and simple lives, wouldn't that make the world a boring place. Everyone is different. As I always say, Life is full of unexpected surprises.

Complains

Sorry for the lack of updates but recently i've been really focused on work and i realized how difficult it is to manage a full time job and blog at the same time!

My prego body ain't helping at all. I dont know why but lately i just keep over-sleeping. I used to be able to do with just 4 hours of sleep a day and will automatically wake up but now i NEED at least 10 hours or i'll be extremely cranky and lethargic the whole day. And then there's Elroy...who is extremely hyper active and clingy. I believe it is actually a good thing as it is one of the developmental stages kids face and i also think it'll get worse as time goes by...until he turns 3?

I dont know how it is possible to do without a helper and i am thankful to have one but recently even she is getting a little bit out of hand. She was pretty responsible and been a happy go lucky person for many months but could this new change in her happen because i'm too nice to her? It's sad because i dont want to be the employer who's extremely strict but for the safety of my child and to be able to go to work feeling at ease leaving Elroy in her hands is a must. Last week, Elroy was sick and it must've taken a toll on her body because she fell sick too so i kinda let her rest for 2 days and took over. However...this week it seems like her attitude is getting a bit out of hand and where did all her manners go? Not to mention how she can continue lying in bed in the afternoons in my presence. Well previously, whenever i walk into the room where she's playing with Elroy or watching him nap, she would get up immediately and sit up. Now she just continues lying there in my presence which i feel is kinda in appropriate? Also, i give her the permission to go out to walk the dog and at the same time bring Elroy out for some fresh air in the mornings. I told her before that the max is 30 min but recently, i noticed it takes 1 hour for her to be home. I have actually secretly followed her once and seen where she brings Elroy and Hiro to...which is to the nearby playground to meet other helpers with kids which i think is not so bad because Elroy has "made friends" with many kids and enjoys himself a lot. However extending it to 1 hour out of a sudden without permission is a bit too much lor. Told her about it and she listened for like a week...then back to 1 hour outings again.

Moreover, she has stopped greeting me in the morning and also stopped asking me what i'd like to eat. Every week, i do grocery shopping and usually all the meat in the fridge would be consumed in the same week because she would prepare lunch and dinner for me but now, if i don't ask, she won't cook nor ask me if i want anything so we're left with old meat which we have to throw. Plus, she's starting to get more and more rude. Like for example, whenever we correct her whenever she does something wrong, she would just listen while we talk and walk away. Totally no "YES MAM/SIR"... or even an "OK" to acknowledge. She will just walk away the moment we finish the sentence. Which is SERIOUSLY getting on my nerves because i cannot tolerate such rudeness in the house! I didnt say much though but this morning, i actually raised my voice at her for the first time asking her to have some manners and REPLY. My partner and i are very easy going people and i believe she knows that very well living with us for almost a year now and i think she's really starting to take advantage of us and changing for the worse. Which is extremely worrying for me because baby 2 is on the way and i definitely need a reliable helper around the house. I did try to talk to her nicely to change but it seems like it isn't happening so i think i should get someone like my mother to help me talk to her and maybe warn her that we will send her back should she continue being like that.

Sounds damn bad already right? I hope she will change back to the person she was soon or else i'll have to go through the trouble of finding a new helper all over again and with so much to do and so little time, it's really gonna stress me out. :(

Praying things get better soon.

On a better note, work has been a really fun learning experience for me and i am kinda glad to have stepped into a new industry! I have learnt a lot about a lot of stuff in this short period of time! It's like going to school all over again...and i kinda missed that because the last time i was in school was when i was like 17 and didn't even complete it. Although the money doesn't come as easy as blogging. :( Like seriously, when i compare how quick and easy i earned money through blogging, i can now really say blogging as a full time job is damn easy! Oh how i wish i could juggle both but i've decided not to be greedy and take up social media jobs at the moment because of the fear i wont be able to deliver and give the clients good enough response from my posts.

My Singapore Project - Snowflower

Snow Flower 눈꽃 (My Singapore 2015 National Day & Charity Project Theme Song)
A Singapore collaboration with friends from Korea & Australia.

Donate generously here at "Program: Snow Flower" in aid of Beyond Social Services:
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The objectives of My Singapore project is to:

-promote kindness

-remember the less fortunate as we celebrate National Day every year

-music and charity education to the public

-to raise funds and awareness for charity organisations

-promote music and arts

"Snowflower" is the theme song for this year's My Singapore project and it is filmed in Melbourne, Australia, to capture the real winter sceneries in the music video and the music production team is from South Korea. Lorraine hopes to describe the Singapore spirit of endurance through the song, encourage and motivate those who are suffering to stay strong. A tribute celebrating Singapore’s 50 yrs of resilience, dreams and aspirations, this year’s project also touches on friendship which was what inspired the overseas collaboration.

This year's music video is in support of Beyond Social Services, whose mission is to curb delinquency among children and youths from less privileged backgrounds.

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Elroy 11 Months

So last week, Elroy had a fever for like 4 days. It was so high, one night it went up to 40.4 degree celsius. My helper and I spent those days with very little sleep taking turns to look after him and check on him constantly. He then broke out in a rash and the fever ended. Googled and they call this Roseola. Pretty sure it was that but didn't confirm it with the doctor because the rash went away pretty quickly.

I am slowly going cray though :( and i think my helper too. He is sooooo fussy now. What happened to my easy happy baby?! It started last month, got worse during his 4 days fever. And now that the fever is gone...OMG the crying just won't stop it is really slowly driving me crazy. I'm so sorry I feel so bad saying this but it's really what i am feeling. Even when he has stopped for a little while and I want to sleep, the crying will be ringing in my head. Being pregnant is making my patience worse than ever too. I'm pretty tolerant to babies' cries leh but recently it's just tooooooo much to handle...

Elroy cries over everything and it's so difficult to make him stop. It used to be super easy like all we had to do was to Carry him around but now he would stop awhile and start again while being carried. Everything makes him cry?! It is even worse than the newborn phase. When he wants milk, i give him milk and he will drink a few sips and throw the bottle away and start crying again. And then i'll try giving it to him again, and he will drink a few more sips and cry again. It's just non stop crying 24/7. He can't sleep for over 3 hours....he will confirm wake up to cry awhile then go back to sleep. I googled and many mommies experience this too and said it's teething. I believe so since the last check up with the doc, he doesn't have a ear infection and besides his fever there wasn't really anything alarming according to the blood and urine tests the doc did.

Oh please please let this phase be over soon!!! :(

Anyway, more updates on his growth. He is now a whopping 11kg! Pretty big for a 11 month old baby indeed. The doc said it's all good cus he is "tall" so yeah, not over weight! Plus he will lose it all when he starts to walk....which i'm quite sad about because i love fatty Elroy. Still a super fussy eater!!! But can eat A LOT if he likes a certain food. It's not easy though! It's like one day he might like it and the next day he doesn't. And like the previous update, he just wants to be fed by the hand and refuses to eat from spoon. Like if we feed by a spoon halfway and he stops, then no choice but to use hand otherwise he just want want to eat it anymore. He is getting pretty good at feeding himself now. Like he can hold his biscuit or fruit and finish it without creating a huge mess and dropping it all over. 

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Baby's First Fever

So at almost 11 months old, my baby Elroy finally got a fever...actually he got it once after a vaccination but it was only 37.7 and it went down immediately after paracetamol but this time round wasn't that simple.

Yesterday afternoon before I left for work he was all well but when I came back, my helper told me he has a slight fever. Gave him paracetamol and hoped it'll be better the next day. I assumed it was just teething fever. In the morning it was 37.4 and that's pretty ok according to the pediatrician and google. He was also very active and being his usual self. Had a lot of errands to run so I decided to bring him along in case his fever comes back and I can rush him to see a doctor immediately.

He was all good until 4ish pm, when my partner and I carried him and he felt very warm and was kinda cranky and didn't want to sleep. Our helper assumed and said he seemed fine and that it wasn't that warm but being the worried parents that we are we decided to make our way to the pediatric clinic. Which I am so glad we did!!! Thank goodness it closes at 5pm and we were in time! When we reached, his fever was 39.5 and after waiting for like 30min it rose to 40. We had to do a blood test immediately but it turned out to be fine so doctor said to give him meds and monitor him closely at home for the next 2 days and go back again. Oh man I can't imagine how he must feel! :( I'm so worried because even I as an adult have never had a 40 deg fever before. I've never felt this worried for anyone before and now I know exactly how parents feel when something unpleasant happens to their darling child.

We are supposed to fly on Friday for our first family holiday and I was super looking forward to it but because of his fever, we might have to cancel it. Praying he will get better asap!!!

Small Bump = Unhealthy Pregnancy

People need to know that one's bump size does not determine the size of the baby. You can have a giant bump but still give birth to a small baby (because it could be you have more amniotic fluid). Also, even if you have gained a lot of weight, if does not mean your baby absorbed it all too. Some people can gain a lot but still have a normal average size baby. I even know of people who gained very little but their babies were considered bigger than average! 

Im getting people asking me if I'm eating enough for my baby and why my bump is smaller this time round. I know you're worried but really, there's nothing to worry about and you cannot judge someone's pregnancy just by how much weight they have gained or how big their bump is.

Knowing that I am not one who believes in starving myself to lose weight, it is highly unlikely I'll starve during pregnancy either. To me, eating is one of the things I enjoy most and I never deprive myself of food. Even when I'm trying to lose weight, I will still eat...just healthier choices and exercise more to be able to achieve my ideal goal. Because I am always eating, I have a really good metabolic rate and I am thankful for that that's why I always tell people to never go on crash diets because that's all temporary. So now that I'm pregnant, it's even crazier because I have every reason to eat and gain weight without feeling guilty! As someone who loves food so much, it is definitely one of my favourite perks of being preggers...haha.

So why is your bump so small this time round? Shouldn't your bump be bigger during the 2nd pregnancy? 

Well I personally don't think it's that small anymore and one shouldn't judge from pictures because many of the clothes I wear don't show the real size of it. And also, it didn't show earlier than the first because before I got pregnant with number 2, I had managed to train them muscles and got pretty toned tummy.  

People who think I'm dieting and caring more about looks than my baby's health should think twice man. You have not seen how I eat...and merely judging from the pictures I post...which are from only one angle, and I'd try to post the most flattering one which makes me look slimmer as most of it are ads for clients selling non-maternity clothes. Btw I have gained a massive amount of weight, which shocked my doc as I only took a month to put on so much! Like my previous pregnancy with Elroy, I have already gained 10kg at Week 24. Which is considered a lot but well, I guess that's just me when pregnant!! My 1st pregnancy I gained 20kg in all so I'm expecting to gain around the same, or maybe 15kg since they say you gain lesser when you have a girl (aiya got many "they says" during pregnancy one haha)? 

If I choose to have a baby, I want a healthy baby. I won't do anything to increase the risk of not having a healthy baby. 

Single Parents in Singapore

(Update)

So sorry but I actually didn't really read the original article before writing this (usually get news from friends) but after reading it I sorta understand it better. This was written when someone sent me the one from the "anti government" website which is slightly biased. So yes, pretty much aware of the "real" situation after several ppl sent me the original article from non-biased websites.

"In an interview with government-controlled media Channel News Asia, Minister for Social and Family Development (MSF) Tan Chuan Jin said that the ruling PAP Government will still not support equal rights for single parents because it is not the “norm”"

"Going by Minister Tan Chuan Jin’s logic, it appears giving these single parents equal rights will result in an increase in the number of single parents and that married couples become single parents out of choice and not circumstances."

It's so stupid because not all Single Parents want to be Single Parents by choice. Yes, some people do choose to lead that lifestyle because going through an abortion does seem cruel and some women do feel strong and are capable enough to do so. But many don't...and many times it's because the Father of the child isn't a good person. So these women have to live with a cheating husband or an abusive guy for the rest of her life just so she can enjoy the benefits from the government? If father of the child has another woman outside, the mother has to marry him just so she can have a "normal" family? You'd say, then why they even had a child in the first place. Well, people can change overnight and ya, accidents do happen. Everyone wants a perfect family, who would choose not to have one if they could? Also, some guys just refuse to be responsible for the life they created, how about the government force these men to be responsible since they wanna "force" marriage like that? It's always the woman's fault but hey, it takes 2 hands to clap? Whether Single or Married, the responsibility to raise a child is the same...a parent is a parent. In fact, it is two times tougher on a single parent! Single parents aren't even asking for more benefits...just EQUAL benefits. After all, everyone is paying taxes too.

For myself, thankfully I have great family support and because my partner and I have plans, this "status" won't be for long. So this complain post isn't about me but for those other mummies out there. It is not the same for everyone... I have met so many single moms who really struggle. They struggle to find time to look after their child because they have to work full time (some even work 2 Jobs) to pay the bills and also struggle to find a roof over their head because single parents cannot purchase a HDB (until they reach 35). Most of the time thanks to their irresponsible partners who abandoned them. Still, they chose to keep the child because they really cannot bear to go through an abortion. Especially those who discover their pregnancy at a later stage, when you see the ultrasound scan of a fully formed baby, you have the heart to abort meh?? Also met one whom partner passed away the week they were going to tie the knot and shortly after found out she was 5 weeks pregnant. Some things are really not by choice. Hopefully one day the government would be a little more sympathetic and give single parents the same benefits because it really isn't easy raising a child on their own at all. I'm not anti PAP and do wish they continue running the country as they've been doing a great job so far and am not sure if the opposition can do better but there are little things like that I wish would change. Why should the parent be punished for choosing the brave step to raise a child? It is just so sad these parents get condemned for their bravery.

Prenatal Massage

Pregnancy isn't the easiest thing to go through. Many pregnant women tend to suffer from back ache and swollen feet during pregnancy due to carrying the additional weight all around.

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I have experienced times whereby I am so sore all over and so in need of a good massage but when I visit the massage palours I go to pre-pregnancy, they refuse to lay a finger on me as they say they are not certified pre-natal masseurs and afraid to harm my baby. So yes, you can't just walk into any random massage palour you see.

How can prenatal massage help me?

The therapeutic benefits of massage for pregnant women haven't been studied very much. There's some evidence that massage may help people who suffer from low back pain and possibly those with chronic headaches, but the studies weren't done with pregnant women. In any case, massage may decrease stress and promote relaxation, helping you cope with discomfort even if it doesn't specifically alleviate or prevent it.

Carrying a baby inside you changes your center of gravity and puts a lot of stress on your back, neck, abdominal muscles, and shoulders. Pregnancy also relaxes your ligaments, so that your pelvic joints are less stable, and changes your posture, pulling your pelvis forward. Add to that the extra weight you're carrying and you may find you've got an aching lower back.

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That is why I have prepared a list of places to check out should you be in need of a good prenatal massage in Singapore to relax because you deserve it, momma to be! 

East

Traditional and Holistic Post-Natal Centre

Tel: 92716091

Add: 180 Joo Chiat Road #02-02 (Shophouse) Singapore 427451

Java Spa

Tel: 62451151

Add:711 East Coast Road, Singapore 459065

North

Aramsa Spa

Tel: 64566556

Add:1382 Ang Mo Kio Ave 1, Bishan park 2, Singapore 569931

West

PregMassage

Tel: +65 9655 6112

Address: 46 Pandan Loop Singapore 119728 (appointment only)

Central

AFOND Boutique Spa (Chinatown)

Phone: +65 6836 0676

Add: 263 South Bridge Road, Singapore 058812

Babies Bellies

Tel: 6356 6623

Add: 10 Sinaran Drive #02-10 Square 2 Singapore 307506

Beauty Mums and Babies (Paragon)

Tel: 6235 0688

Add: 290 Orchard Road #14-11/12 Paragon Singapore 238859

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Rather enjoy a massage in the comfort of your own home? 

You can always arrange an appointment with masseurs who will travel to your place! The masseurs below specialize in pre and post-natal massage. All you need is a bed, 2 pillows and 2 towels. :)

Oriental Jamu

Phone: +65 8518 8726 (Jessica)

Email: orientaljamu@gmail.com

Rahayu Homespa

Phone: 9878 2394

Email: ayu@rahayu-homespa.com

Madam Noura

Phone: 94345343

Mdm Masita

Phone: 90510005

I personally prefer the home massage option and also did home post-natal massage after the delivery of my baby as was having Chinese confinement and could not go out for a month. I like Jessica and Rahayu a lot and will be using them for my 2nd pregnancy. Have 2 in case one isn't free hehe. Usually the home massage masseurs are very busy and it can be a little bit difficult if you want to do it last minute which is why I decided to put in 4 options (first 2 I've personally had a good experience with and the other 2 were recommended by mummy friends).

Pamper yourself with a good massage once a week if you can! It will really make your pregnancy more relaxing and hopefully, enjoyable. :) I personally do it every 2 weeks!

Might do a post on post-natal massage when i've gathered enough places offering it (any mommas know of good post-natal masseurs, do feel free to e-mail me at tammytay@hotmail.sg).

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